Why Most New Year’s Resolutions Fail

And How to Reframe Them for Lasting Change

As the new year approaches, millions of people will set resolutions in the hope of creating positive change. Yet, according to research, 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by February.

Why does this happen year after year? And how can you set goals that actually stick — especially if you’re managing a chronic condition? Let’s dive into the pitfalls of traditional resolutions and explore how to reframe them into sustainable, meaningful progress.

Why Most Resolutions Fail

The problem isn’t the idea of setting goals; it’s how we approach them. Here are three common reasons New Year’s resolutions often don’t work:

1. They’re Rooted in Shame
   Many resolutions stem from a belief that we need to “fix” ourselves. Whether it’s losing weight, exercising more, or being more productive, these goals are often motivated by societal pressure or self-criticism. This creates a negative cycle where failure feels inevitable.

2. They Rely on Willpower Alone
   Willpower is a limited resource, especially for those of us managing chronic conditions. Resolutions that require constant discipline without built-in support or flexibility are doomed to fail when life inevitably gets in the way.

3. They’re Unrealistic or Unsustainable
   Setting goals that don’t align with your energy, resources, or current circumstances is a recipe for burnout. For people living with chronic illness, this disconnect can feel especially defeating.

How to Reframe Your Approach

Instead of focusing on resolutions that demand perfection, consider reframing your approach with these strategies:

1. Start with Self-Compassion
   Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with me that I need to fix?” ask, “What’s one small change I can make to feel more supported and aligned?” Goals rooted in kindness and self-care are more likely to succeed.

2. Set Sustainable Goals
   Focus on small, actionable steps rather than sweeping changes. For example, instead of committing to an hour of exercise daily, aim for a gentle stretch or short walk a few times a week.

3. Focus on the Process, Not the Outcome
   Resolutions often focus on the result (e.g., “I’ll lose 20 pounds”) rather than the journey (e.g., “I’ll add more nourishing foods to my meals”). Shifting your attention to the process creates space for progress without perfection.

4. Honor Your Energy and Capacity
   Living with a chronic condition means your energy may vary day to day. Set flexible goals that allow for rest and adaptation without guilt.

Join Me to Reframe Your New Year’s Resolutions

If you’re ready to let go of the pressure of traditional resolutions and create goals that truly work for you, I invite you to another FREE Recharge Room event hosted in conjunction with Millennial Burnout Coach Jayci Gibbs.

Here’s what we’ll cover:
✨ How to reframe resolutions into achievable, meaningful intentions.
✨ Tools to align your goals with your energy and needs.
✨ Strategies to avoid burnout and stay motivated throughout the year.

📅 When: Tuesday, January 21st 2025 @ 4pm PST // 6pm CST // 7pm EST
📍 Where: Online (registration link below!)

This is your chance to step into the new year with intention, grace, and a plan that actually honors your life.

👉 Register Here

The Bottom Line

New Year’s resolutions don’t have to fail — but they do need to be reimagined. By starting from a place of self-compassion and focusing on sustainable, flexible goals, you can create a year of growth that feels empowering instead of overwhelming.

Don’t let January 1st be the beginning of another cycle of burnout. Let’s start 2025 with a focus on you.